{"id":2342,"date":"2022-07-21T11:42:47","date_gmt":"2022-07-21T09:42:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ceskodnes.cz\/?p=2342"},"modified":"2022-07-21T11:42:48","modified_gmt":"2022-07-21T09:42:48","slug":"zdrave-sebevedome-dcery-vyrostou-i-diky-otcum","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ceskodnes.cz\/?p=2342","title":{"rendered":"Zdrav\u011b sebev\u011bdom\u00e9 dcery vyrostou i d\u00edky otc\u016fm"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Pouto mezi matkami a dcerami se pova\u017euje za nejpevn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed na sv\u011bt\u011b, ale velk\u00fd pod\u00edl na budouc\u00ed osobnosti dcery maj\u00ed i otcov\u00e9. Jsou prvn\u00edmi mu\u017ei v \u017eivot\u011b \u017een a ve v\u00fdchov\u011b hraj\u00ed stejn\u011b d\u016fle\u017eitou roli jako matky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jejich vliv je neoddiskutovateln\u00fd, ale stejn\u011b, jak m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt v\u00fdchova z jejich strany zanedb\u00e1na a m\u00edt negativn\u00ed dopad na dosp\u011bl\u00e9 \u017eensk\u00e9 j\u00e1, mohou otcov\u00e9 pro sv\u00e9 dcery i hodn\u011b ud\u011blat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To znamen\u00e1 nav\u00e9st je na cestu zdrav\u011b sebev\u011bdom\u00e9 osobnosti bez komplex\u016f a tr\u00e1pen\u00ed, kter\u00fdmi v dne\u0161n\u00ed dob\u011b trp\u00ed u\u017e mal\u00e9 d\u00edvky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nejist\u00e9 jsou u\u017e mal\u00e9 d\u011bti
N\u011bkter\u00e9 pr\u016fzkumy uv\u00e1d\u011bj\u00ed, \u017ee ji\u017e p\u011btilet\u00e9 d\u011bti vyjad\u0159uj\u00ed nespokojenost se sv\u00fdm t\u011blem a ve v\u011bku 6 a\u017e 8 let v\u00edce ne\u017e polovina d\u00edvek uva\u017euje nad t\u00edm, \u017ee jejich ide\u00e1ln\u00ed postava by m\u011bla b\u00fdt huben\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, ne\u017e je ve skute\u010dnosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tyto nejistoty hluboce souvis\u00ed s obrazem, jak\u00fd o \u017een\u00e1ch vytv\u00e1\u0159\u00ed okol\u00ed, m\u00e9dia, kultura a co o n\u011bm d\u00edvky sly\u0161\u00ed od sv\u00fdch rodi\u010d\u016f. Nen\u00ed \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fdm p\u0159ekvapen\u00edm, \u017ee u\u017e mlad\u00e9 d\u011bti o sob\u011b pochybuj\u00ed, vid\u00ed-li v poh\u00e1dk\u00e1ch pouze \u0161t\u00edhl\u00e9 a dokonale vypadaj\u00edc\u00ed hlavn\u00ed hrdinky a ty, kter\u00fdm n\u011bco \u201echyb\u00ed\u201c jsou pova\u017eov\u00e1ny za zvl\u00e1\u0161tn\u00ed \u010di neatraktivn\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Rovn\u011b\u017e bychom se nem\u011bli divit, pokud maj\u00ed probl\u00e9my se sv\u00fdm vzez\u0159en\u00edm, kdy\u017e jejich bl\u00edzk\u00e9 osoby trp\u00ed nedostatkem sebev\u011bdom\u00ed, p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b maj\u00ed pot\u0159ebu zesm\u011b\u0161\u0148ovat druh\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00fdzkumy dokazuj\u00ed, \u017ee a\u010dkoli je \u017eensk\u00e1 perspektiva v r\u00e1mci pouta s matkou v\u00fdznamn\u00e1, pozitivn\u00ed p\u0159edstavy o vlastn\u00edm t\u011ble nejsou jen jejich zodpov\u011bdnost\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Psychoterapeutka Emmy Brunnerov\u00e1 pro Independent \u0159\u00edk\u00e1, \u017ee \u201ePuto mezi otcem a dcerou je nejkl\u00ed\u010dov\u011bj\u0161\u00edm a bude m\u00edt dopad na to, jak bude mlad\u00e1 \u017eena nahl\u00ed\u017eet na mu\u017ee a jak\u00e9 budou jej\u00ed vztahy s nimi po zbytek \u017eivota.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Znamen\u00e1 to, \u017ee pokud ji takovou, jak\u00e1 je, akceptuje jej\u00ed vlastn\u00ed otec, je vysoce pravd\u011bpodobn\u00e9, \u017ee tak bude svou fyzickou str\u00e1nku vn\u00edmat i ona sama a p\u0159isp\u011bje k jej\u00edmu zdrav\u00e9mu sebev\u011bdom\u00ed a du\u0161evn\u00edmu i soci\u00e1ln\u00edmu v\u00fdvoji.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nab\u00edz\u00edme n\u011bkolik tip\u016f, jak k tomu p\u0159isp\u011bt:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Soust\u0159e\u010fte se na \u00fasp\u011bchy, kter\u00e9 nesouvis\u00ed s kr\u00e1sou a estetikou
    Nikdy nev\u00edte, jak se nevinn\u00e9 pozn\u00e1mky o vzez\u0159en\u00ed mohou zapsat do lidsk\u00e9 pam\u011bti a ovlivnit sm\u00fd\u0161len\u00ed v budoucnosti. Brunnerov\u00e1 rad\u00ed, aby otcov\u00e9 vyzdvihovali osobnost a ne jen vzhled sv\u00fdch dcer.<\/li>
  2. Mluvte o sexismu v m\u00e9di\u00edch
    Nam\u00edsto tich\u00e9 podpory nerovnosti mezi pohlav\u00edmi v m\u00e9di\u00edch a prohl\u00ed\u017een\u00ed toho, co je zjevn\u00e9, by se otcov\u00e9 m\u011bli v\u016f\u010di takov\u00e9mu zobrazov\u00e1n\u00ed sv\u011bta vzep\u0159\u00edt. S d\u011btmi je t\u0159eba mluvit io tom, \u017ee to, co vid\u00ed, nemus\u00ed b\u00fdt v\u017edy p\u0159esn\u00e9 a spr\u00e1vn\u00e9. \u201eDejte sv\u00e9 dce\u0159i v\u011bd\u011bt, \u017ee degradov\u00e1n\u00ed nebo zneu\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed \u017een v m\u00e9di\u00edch podle v\u00e1s nen\u00ed v po\u0159\u00e1dku,\u201c doporu\u010duje psychoterapeutka.<\/li>
  3. Ud\u011blejte prioritu z ment\u00e1ln\u00edho zdrav\u00ed
    Otcov\u00e9 by m\u011bli se sv\u00fdmi dcerami mluvit io d\u016fle\u017eitosti psychick\u00e9 pohody a toho, co se d\u011bje v na\u0161\u00ed mysli. Fyzick\u00e1 dokonalost toti\u017e \u010dasto dost\u00e1v\u00e1 mnohem v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed prostor, ne\u017e ment\u00e1ln\u00ed blaho, p\u0159i\u010dem\u017e l\u00e1ska k sob\u011b sam\u00e9mu a zdrav\u00e9 sebev\u011bdom\u00ed za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 pr\u00e1v\u011b v hlav\u011b.<\/li>
  4. Sv\u00e9 fyzick\u00e9 nedostatky dejte stranou
    D\u011bti se u\u010d\u00ed zejm\u00e9na pozorov\u00e1n\u00edm, teprve pozd\u011bji t\u00edm, co jim \u0159ekneme. I otcov\u00e9 mohou b\u00fdt sebev\u011bdom\u00fdm vzorem v souvislosti s fyzick\u00fdm zjevem Sta\u010d\u00ed j\u00edt d\u00edt\u011bti p\u0159\u00edkladem, neponi\u017eovat se p\u0159ed n\u00edm a nekritizovat neust\u00e1le sv\u00e9 nedostatky. Co do sv\u00e9 dcery zasejete, to ona sklid\u00ed pozd\u011bji v dosp\u011bl\u00e9m v\u011bku.<\/li>
  5. Travte spolu dostatek kvalitn\u00edho \u010dasu
    Otcov\u00e9 by se m\u011bli zaj\u00edmat o spole\u010dn\u00e9 aktivity se sv\u00fdmi d\u011btmi, aby si tak vyp\u011bstovali siln\u00e9 pouto a otev\u0159eli mo\u017enosti pro up\u0159\u00edmnou a ni\u010d\u00edm neomezovanou komunikaci.<\/li>
  6. \u0158ekn\u011bte sv\u00e9 dce\u0159i, co pro v\u00e1s znamen\u00e1
    Pokud si dcera v d\u011btstv\u00ed nevyslechne, \u017ee je pro otce kr\u00e1sn\u00e1, d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 a \u017ee je milovan\u00e1, m\u016f\u017ee to m\u00edt v budoucnu dopad i na jej\u00ed partnersk\u00e9 vztahy. Pokud otec v t\u011bchto v\u011bcech ml\u010d\u00ed, m\u016f\u017ee v dce\u0159i vyvolat \u0159adu ot\u00e1zek a p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm nejistot. V partnerstv\u00ed pak jen st\u011b\u017e\u00ed m\u016f\u017ee uv\u011b\u0159it, \u017ee je pro mu\u017ee hodnotn\u00e1 a kr\u00e1sn\u00e1.<\/li>
  7. Respektujte v\u0161echny \u017eeny
    Dcery si u otc\u016f v\u0161\u00edmaj\u00ed nejen jejich postoj k nim sam\u00fdm, ale tak\u00e9 k \u017een\u00e1m obecn\u011b. Vyj\u00e1d\u0159it jim sv\u016fj respekt a \u00factu znamen\u00e1 uk\u00e1zat dcer\u00e1m, jak by se m\u011bli mu\u017ei chovat k opa\u010dn\u00e9mu pohlav\u00ed.<\/li><\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Pouto mezi matkami a dcerami se pova\u017euje za nejpevn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed na sv\u011bt\u011b, ale velk\u00fd pod\u00edl na budouc\u00ed osobnosti dcery maj\u00ed i otcov\u00e9. Jsou prvn\u00edmi mu\u017ei v \u017eivot\u011b \u017een a ve v\u00fdchov\u011b hraj\u00ed stejn\u011b d\u016fle\u017eitou roli jako matky. Jejich vliv je neoddiskutovateln\u00fd, ale stejn\u011b, jak m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt v\u00fdchova z jejich strany zanedb\u00e1na a m\u00edt negativn\u00ed dopad na […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":2334,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"tdm_status":"","tdm_grid_status":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[789],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2342","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-rodina"],"amp_enabled":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ceskodnes.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2342","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ceskodnes.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ceskodnes.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ceskodnes.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ceskodnes.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2342"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ceskodnes.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2342\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ceskodnes.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2334"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ceskodnes.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2342"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ceskodnes.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2342"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ceskodnes.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2342"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}