F\u00e1z\u00ed vysv\u011btlov\u00e1n\u00ed jste si u\u017e pro\u0161li, va\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b u\u017e dob\u0159e v\u00ed, jak p\u0159i\u0161lo na sv\u011bt a m\u00e1 alespo\u0148 mlhavou teoretickou p\u0159edstavu o sexualit\u011b dosp\u011bl\u00fdch. To, \u017ee sex je sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed vztah\u016f a z\u00e1rove\u0148 jde ruku v ruce s l\u00e1skou k partnerovi (i sob\u011b) v\u0161ak pot\u0159ebuje v pr\u016fb\u011bhu dosp\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed pochopit hloub\u011bji.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jednou z cest je b\u00fdt \u201esex pozitivn\u00edm\u201c rodi\u010dem, kter\u00fd z bl\u00edzkosti dvou dosp\u011bl\u00fdch lid\u00ed nebude d\u011blat stra\u0161\u00e1ka ani hanbu, a kter\u00fd d\u00e1 sv\u00e9mu potomkovi rozumnou uk\u00e1zku p\u0159izp\u016fsobenou jeho v\u011bku. V jist\u00e9m bod\u011b se n\u011bkter\u00fdm ot\u00e1zk\u00e1m a odpov\u011bd\u00edm toti\u017e nelze zcela vyhnout a d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 je, aby se ob\u011b strany c\u00edtily v takov\u00e9 debat\u011b komfortn\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nastolen\u00e9 t\u00e9ma
Pokud u\u017e dojde k tomu, \u017ee se va\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b za\u010dne v\u00edce o problematiku sexu zaj\u00edmat, p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b pokud si o tomto t\u00e9matu pov\u00edd\u00e1te s partnerem a partnerkou, nevyh\u00fdbejte se j\u00ed jen proto, \u017ee d\u00edt\u011b pr\u00e1v\u011b ve\u0161lo do m\u00edstnosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed terapeut Ian Kerner \u0159\u00edk\u00e1, \u017ee d\u011bti pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed spojen\u00ed i vzory, kdy\u017e se jedn\u00e1 o sex. \u201ePokud se takov\u00e9 konverzaci vyh\u00fdb\u00e1te, m\u016f\u017ee to pos\u00edlit jejich pocit studu,\u201c rad\u00ed. Z\u00e1rove\u0148 je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9, aby d\u011bti ch\u00e1paly, \u017ee sexualita je v po\u0159\u00e1dku a jejich sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed pocity jsou naprosto p\u0159irozen\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Polibky p\u0159ed d\u011btmi
P\u0159iznejte si \u2013 jak \u010dasto si p\u0159ed d\u011btmi vym\u011b\u0148ujete polibky, obj\u00edm\u00e1te se \u010di se dr\u017e\u00edte za ruce? D\u011bti i tohle v\u0161echno pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed vid\u011bt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kerner uv\u00e1d\u00ed, \u017ee m\u00e1 \u0159adu pacient\u016f, kte\u0159\u00ed mu \u0159\u00edkaj\u00ed, \u017ee nikdy nevid\u011bli sv\u00e9 rodi\u010de se l\u00edbat nebo si jinak projevovat l\u00e1sku.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201eA tito pacienti pak maj\u00ed pocit, \u017ee neza\u017eili, aby jim n\u011bkdo p\u0159edvedl nebo zrcadlil, co to znamen\u00e1 b\u00fdt v l\u00e1skypln\u00e9m, intimn\u00edm vztahu,\u201c p\u0159ibli\u017euje. I proto doporu\u010duje, aby se partne\u0159i p\u0159ed d\u011btmi obj\u00edmali, dr\u017eeli \u010di pol\u00edbili, proto\u017ee uk\u00e1zat jim to, znamen\u00e1 uk\u00e1zat jim lidskost a p\u0159irozenost n\u011b\u010deho, co by m\u011bli zn\u00e1t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sex a l\u00e1ska pohromad\u011b
Pokud \u017eijete v p\u011bkn\u00e9m, funguj\u00edc\u00edm vztahu, je to skv\u011bl\u00e1 p\u0159\u00edle\u017eitost, jak p\u0159ed sv\u00fdmi d\u011btmi mluvit o sexu v souvislosti s l\u00e1skou. Pochop\u00ed, \u017ee v takov\u00e9m p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b je milov\u00e1n\u00ed vy\u00fast\u011bn\u00edm vz\u00e1jemn\u00fdch cit\u016f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Podle klinick\u00e9ho psychologa Johna Mayera by si rodi\u010de mohli p\u0159ipravit n\u011bkolik vysv\u011btlovac\u00edch strategi\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201eZkuste nap\u0159\u00edklad \u0159\u00edci \u2013 pokud dva lid\u00e9 k sob\u011b c\u00edt\u00ed skute\u010dn\u011b silnou l\u00e1sku, cht\u011bj\u00ed tyto city dan\u00e9 osob\u011b i vyj\u00e1d\u0159it. \u010casto jsou slova nedosta\u010duj\u00edc\u00ed, a tak si l\u00e1sku vyjad\u0159uj\u00ed prost\u0159ednictv\u00edm dotek\u016f a fyzick\u00e9 n\u00e1klonnosti,\u201c doporu\u010duje.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Skute\u010dn\u00e9 n\u00e1zvy a nep\u0159ibarven\u00e1 realita
Nen\u00ed ni\u010d\u00edm neobvykl\u00fdm, \u017ee lid\u00e9 d\u00e1vaj\u00ed sv\u00fdm intimn\u00edm parti\u00edm r\u016fzn\u00e1 jm\u00e9na a pou\u017e\u00edvaj\u00ed v souvislosti s nimi eufemismy. Zejm\u00e9na pokud o nich mluv\u00ed p\u0159ed d\u011btmi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
D\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 v\u0161ak je naz\u00fdvat je prav\u00fdmi jm\u00e9ny, aby nikdo nem\u011bl pocit, \u017ee jde o \u010d\u00e1sti t\u011bla, za kter\u00e9 je t\u0159eba se styd\u011bt nebo c\u00edtit nevhodn\u011b, nebo\u0165 vy\u017eaduj\u00ed \u201especi\u00e1ln\u00ed\u201c p\u0159\u00edstup.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0158\u00edkat pravdiv\u011b je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 i pokud jde o zobrazen\u00ed sexu. Mluvte se sv\u00fdmi d\u011btmi narovinu o tom, co je skute\u010dn\u00e9 a re\u00e1ln\u00e9, a co je jen fale\u0161n\u00e1 reprezentace sexuality nap\u0159\u00edklad ve filmech, seri\u00e1lech \u010di dokonce v pornografii. D\u011bti by m\u011bly pochopit, \u017ee n\u011bkter\u00e1 m\u00e9dia nezobrazuj\u00ed v\u011bci tak, jak funguj\u00ed ve skute\u010dn\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mo\u017enost nesouhlasit
Kdy\u017e budou d\u011bti odmali\u010dka v\u011bd\u011bt, \u017ee v souvislosti s vlastn\u00edm t\u011blem maj\u00ed pr\u00e1vo vyj\u00e1d\u0159it sv\u016fj n\u00e1zor, tedy souhlas nebo nesouhlas s t\u00edm, co se jim d\u011bje, budou moci obez\u0159etn\u011bji a spr\u00e1vn\u011bji reagovat v dosp\u011blosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
V d\u011btstv\u00ed a dosp\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed je rodi\u010de \u010dasto nut\u00ed obejmout \u010di pol\u00edbit p\u0159\u00edbuzn\u00e9, i kdy\u017e necht\u011bj\u00ed. Podle Jessicy O\u00b4Reillyov\u00e9 by jejich rodi\u010de m\u011bli u\u010dit, \u017ee je v po\u0159\u00e1dku, pokud se v takov\u00fdch situac\u00edch c\u00edt\u00ed nekomfortn\u011b a vyj\u00e1d\u0159\u00ed sv\u016fj nesouhlas. Klidn\u011b by sta\u010dilo, pokud se jich doty\u010dn\u00fd dosp\u011bl\u00fd p\u0159ed objet\u00edm \u010di polibkem nejprve zept\u00e1, jestli tak m\u016f\u017ee u\u010dinit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nebezpe\u010d\u00ed a v\u00fdhody sexu? Ne najednou
Nespojujte debatu o tom, pro\u010d je sex dobr\u00fd a p\u0159\u00edjemn\u00fd s t\u00e9maty jako jsou rizika pohlavn\u011b p\u0159enosn\u00fdch onemocn\u011bn\u00ed, nebezpe\u010d\u00ed sexu\u00e1ln\u00edho obt\u011b\u017eov\u00e1n\u00ed \u010di n\u00e1sil\u00ed. Mluvte o nich separ\u00e1tn\u011b, aby d\u00edt\u011b pochopilo, \u017ee nejdou ruku v ruce, ale jsou to dv\u011b vz\u00e1jemn\u011b vzd\u00e1len\u00e9 str\u00e1nky sexuality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201ePokud sp\u00e1rujete konverzaci o sexualit\u011b a l\u00e1sce se zdravotn\u00edmi riziky a nebezpe\u010d\u00edmi viktimizace a vztah\u016f postaven\u00fdch na moci, mohou si d\u011bti spojovat sexualitu a fyzickou l\u00e1sku s negativy,\u201c varuje psycholog John Mayer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pozitivn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edstup k vlastn\u00edmu t\u011blu
D\u011bti si osvojuj\u00ed a odpo\u010d\u00edvaj\u00ed chov\u00e1n\u00ed, kter\u00e9 doma vid\u00ed a za\u017e\u00edvaj\u00ed. Pokud se nahlas tr\u00e1p\u00edte t\u00edm, \u017ee jste trochu p\u0159ibrali, vypad\u00e1te \u0161patn\u011b a m\u00e1te ze sebe hrozn\u00fd pocit, d\u00e1v\u00e1te t\u00edm sv\u00e9mu d\u00edt\u011bti jasn\u00fd sign\u00e1l, aby se i ono za\u010dalo zam\u00fd\u0161let nad sv\u00fdm t\u011blem v podobn\u00e9m duchu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201eChovejte se ke sv\u00e9mu t\u011blu s l\u00e1skou a respektem,\u201c rad\u00ed sexuolo\u017eka Jessica O\u00b4Reillyov\u00e1. \u201eExistuj\u00ed d\u016fkazy, \u017ee postoje k vlastn\u00edmu t\u011blesn\u00e9mu zjevu jsou naka\u017eliv\u00e9. M\u016f\u017eete tedy p\u0159edv\u00e1d\u011bt pozitivn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edstup t\u00edm, \u017ee budete ke sv\u00e9mu vlastn\u00edmu t\u011blu ohledupln\u00ed,\u201c \u0159\u00edk\u00e1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nakonec, l\u00e1sku a respekt ke sv\u00e9mu t\u011blu vyj\u00e1d\u0159\u00edte zejm\u00e9na snahou udr\u017eovat zdrav\u00fd a aktivn\u00ed \u017eivotn\u00ed styl.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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